One woman burst into tears when she was shown a modern home
having requested original features, and this particular couple had already been
looking for three years, finally contacting the programme in the belief that
the presenters would magically conjour up the perfect property to meet all
their demands despite their limited budget and the fact they couldn't agree in the first place!
The real question here is: ‘why are people’s expectations so
unrealistic in the first place?’ I think
that today people are given the impression that they deserve everything they
desire regardless of circumstances- an idea constantly thrown at us via the
media with advertising being hugely psychological, playing to our weaknesses.
Common sense dictates that if you have financial
restrictions you should expect to make some compromises and this can be applied
in different ways to meet our general expectations. What do we expect from our
children or our partners? Are our
demands realistic when we look at their likes, dislikes, abilities or even
earning potential? The point about expectation is that it sets a standard and
in so doing sets us up for delight or disappointment. This can be avoided by
applying a good dose of realism. Negotiation at the outset between parties
helps create a sound platform in any situation. This does not mean that we
shouldn’t expect the best however we may achieve it in stages rather than as a
one off transaction. How much more do we appreciate the things we have had to
work for? On the occasions when all the boxes are ticked we can enjoy extra
feelings of amazement and gratitude.
I firmly believe in expecting what you want rather than
wondering if you will ever come by it but sometimes it is good to leave a few
blanks for the universe to fill. This can lead to more surprises and variety
which enhances life.
The big question is~ how much are our expectations affected
by greed? We should want things for the right reasons, not the wrong. I was stunned recently when I watched a quiz show in which
the final two players can share or steal the winnings. One of the contestants went on about
her dream board and how she would win- which she did. I was fully expecting her
to share as she was tuned into the universe and presumably the 'fair' factor. I was shocked however when the other contestant decided to share and she decided to
steal, walking away with all the money. I think she missed the
point- and as she had effectively cheated him out of his half I expect the
universe will take it back later! Greed is not to be applauded, especially when
she would have had £9000 even if she had shared- not a nice person at face
value.
Of course the most
important aspects of live which we need to concern ourselves with are those emanating from within. We can
have joy, peace and a cheerful disposition which will ultimately attract a
whole range of good into our world and make life worth living. Life is not all
about the perfect roof over your head, it is about striving for perfection
within ourselves and in our dealings with others. Does it really matter how many
bathrooms you have or whether you live by a main road? These are considerations
that add a little something to the quality of our lives but are not really the
best place to put all our energy. I certainly wouldn’t delay moving for 3
years feeling miserable every day just
to get perfection!
Jaz McKenzie
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Jaz McKenzie
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Jaz McKenzie
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