We all know that 1+1=2 in mathematical terms but is this always the reality? Well, I'm not so sure that it's always the case, especially in relationships where it may be considered less than ideal. You see, if one & one only equal two how does that relationship actually benefit anyone? Let's think about this a little more.
Example 1. If I bring myself and you bring yourself to the relationship, together we may achieve a mutually beneficial situation where the giving and taking is pretty even. In that case we create two, a pair, and that's actually very workable provided everything is based on love and appreciation.
Example two. This is where we start to play with the equation. If one person is more dominant than the other, one becomes more than and the other less than. In this instance the scales are not balanced therefore we may have 1.5 of the more dominant person commanding most of the relationship with 0.5 input from the other. On a personal note, back in the past I've been there, done that and can tell you how unhealthy it is. This process is called giving away your personal power to someone else, and that individual often doesn't deserve or appreciate it. Obviously some people are naturally submissive and very happy and content in an unequal relationship, but when someone is coerced and manipulated into being submissive that's entirely different. In other words, it is becomes an abusive relationship. Back in the day men were thought to be the abusers, however, these days many women fall into this category and sadly will often use their children as weapons to spite the man. This is when the numbers become complex because the effects of 1.5+0.5 may well ricochet and affect the well-being of future generations. The 1+1 formula may also become flawed and unhealthy when one person virtually worships the other. To always put someone before yourself or to demand that they put you first is incredibly one sided and leaves one of the pair in permanent denial of their needs.
Example three. This is my ideal formula and it's where the maths gets really interesting. Let's take two very balanced people who have a clear identity; a sense of themselves that no-one can mess with. That identity includes acting on their talents and inspirations to develop and share those gifts while having mutual respect. People require a deep appreciation of themselves and one another, and practice gratitude for all the blessings in their lives. The ability to support one another is essential to ensure growth. When all of this is in place we're heading into 1+1=3,4,5... Two people who are happy in themselves and happy with each other are going to generate joy at a much higher level and in a more sustainable way because their focus extends beyond their immediate unit into the wider community. The gifts that they bring will generate more abundance and many people's lives will be touched in some way as a result.
Obviously these types of balances can be found as different equations in individual situations. People at work may feel the balance of power shift, especially if subjected to bullying or discrimination from a colleague. Returning to family, what are your children's relationships like? How does the power shift within the family as people age? How does the quality of relationships affect aspects of their lives negatively or positively? If things go wrong, in extreme cases 1+1 could actually go into the negative.
Clearly, there are so many things we could consider, reproduction being the obvious. If you have two pets of the opposite sex who knows how many pets you could end up with!
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