Life is about energy and energetic force. This is something we may know but not be fully conversant with. Energy is a force with a magnetic effect and we all know how quickly both good and bad vibrations spread. When someone is 'in a cloud' of any description, we need to be aware of the source of their energy so that we can prevent ourselves from being overcome with negative vibes. When we know the person we are dealing with we will know what their natural default state is. If a very positive person is in a depressive type of cloud we should recognise that this is likely to be a temporary state, so should try our best to help them work through their issues.
In order to help people we need to be strongly rooted in positive energy otherwise we are likely to end up wallowing at lower levels and being of no help at all. If a someone comes to you in desperate need of a listening ear, most of us will do our best to help- unless we have well grounded reasons for not doing so. Sometimes we have been tried and tested by them to the hilt and know that they thrive on drama.
Another important factor is timing- where are you emotionally right now? This is relevant because none of us can pour from an empty vessel, so if you are struggling yourself you may well be unable to cope with additional burdens. When we are in a good place it's a good time to listen and be supportive, the key word being 'listen,' so we can help people to find a way forwards. We can offer opinions for consideration but should avoid the, 'if I were you' scenario, which is overly challenging and could leave them feeling some type of negative emotion if they choose a different path.
There are many forms of help which are practical and not taxing emotionally. People may be under a cloud of illness, requiring a little shopping, help with transportation or some additional childcare. Another person may be facing what they view as an insurmountable difficulty, needing help which uses both your time and skills. By helping you really make a difference which lifts the cloud, and hopefully, puts a smile on someone's face.
Now, let's switch it up and look at this from another angle. Let's help ourselves by understanding that we can be our first port of call. On many occasions we can help ourselves by being the rainbow in our own cloud. Learning to think differently which takes practice, counting our blessings or doing something we enjoy to lift our spirits. Once we start focusing on initiating a 'self-soothing' process, we will be better able to cope with our clouds.
Our clouds are very often as big as we make them. I am guilty of making mountains out of molehills at times and this happens for a number of reasons, the most common being tiredness, ill health or a low mood. Also, we must remember that things can seem far worse at night and will grow even bigger when we have too much time to focus on them. For these reasons it's best to occupy our minds with satisfying thoughts and ideas instead of allowing them to roam. Just fill any spare time with music, dance, a good film, extra trips to the gym, walking, shopping; whatever takes you out of the moment and adjusts your focus! The aim is to create as many good moments as possible in order to shrink those clouds.
One final thing I'll add is to look at the positives. What is good in our lives? What have we achieved? This is good practice and far more beneficial than seeing the gaps. Look at what people are doing for you as opposed to what they failed to do. Take a quick glance back at how far you've come instead of beating yourself up because the road ahead looks so long. All of these suggestions can be used with anyone who actively wants to get their head out of their cloud, and you will be able to tell how determined they are depending on how they receive your suggestions.
Finally, sometimes just being around a happy person is good for the soul, receiving encouragement from them- or even a bunch of flowers! Not everything has to be deep and well intentioned, sometimes your very presence is enough to make you that rainbow.
Jaz McKenzie~ The
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